Promises - Beware of its importance

Human tendency is to do mistakes. This is the phrase that justifies everbody's mistakes. Not everybody murder, steal,takes other's spouse, lie, makes false promises with an intension that deceives someone. But there is something which we all should be aware of..................................


Promises made without knowing the implications might make someone else to do anyone of the above stated. Even if such promises does not result so much it surely makes the person who made it, feel guilty throughout the life. And for the person who is been deceived by a false promise, will feel rejected, the confidence would be shattered causing self pity.

This might look as a common fact, which everybody knows. Many may try keeping the promise, few may stick to it and many will slip over. Being a person who sliped a promise and also being a person deceived, surely will lose self confidence.

Being in a dilema happens for many and it may look like for a week person....
i will try...
may be i can....
i think i may give a try once...
i'm not so sure....
i may not be so comfortable, yet i can manage.....
i'm not sure, but i wish to....
All these statements, will confuse everyone. And promises undertaken on these statements has more tendency to fail...

There will be hundreds of justifications why a promise is not fulfilled, and why a promise made without a surety. Many a time, a person might have no other choice other than making a promise, else they may have to lose something or there might be a constant pestering. People who is generally tender in nature will undertake such promises. Because, the fear of losing someone or something will make them agree with the promise. But problems will twitch immediately after that.

Some people are different, they would accept to undertake a promise and immediately after a little while they would bounce back and procliam that it would not be feasible. This might not be of more damage to both the parties.

But there are people, learning tough lessons, just because they made a promise without understanding its implications. Though the implications are long and stops somewhere, its reflections stays forever. Down the line, they will be paying the price for their guilty throughout their life.

Hence, all this could be avoided for a promise with is in doubt if

The person can make himself strong enough and promulgate that the promise cannot be undertaken as he is not sure of its fulfilment. The statement of a "NO FOR SURE" will put an end. This might seem to be bad, but its reflections will yeild lot of benefits for the future.

The person is so tender, they can get the advice and care of someone, who can perform the work of a guardian.

The person can fully avoid the situation, and makes himself comfortable with essentialities.

The stage of dilema can be well managed using these statements.

I have never done this before, i should get the help of others....
I need time....
No i cannot,give me some other alternative....
I can discuss and let you know later....
I can never do this.....

People who confides with their promises can look themself with great confidence and can get the confidence of many.