Tuesday, July 28, 2009

A page from my personal diary

Pretty well things had happen inbetween the feeling of embrassment and happiness. Iam new to Duabi. I cooked oats and tomato rice (Hope it tastes good). Me and My Husband left our room, he to his office and I to Our Own Indian School. As per our earlier conversation, we were of the opinion that Our Own Indian School was near to his office. I steped into the school, the security guard offered me his help and I went and gave my resume to the secretary.She spoke well and greeted me with an "All the best".

My Husband asked me to give a call to Ms.Vanitha as I entered the school. But I called her after giving my resume. To my surprize, I was in the wrong school, where I approached the right way. The school's name was "OUR OWN ENGLISH HIGH SCHOOL". And I was looking for "OUR OWN INDIAN SCHOOL".

I called vanitha, and was instructed the school was in AL QUOZ. I remembered, My Husband's friend showing the place where I could get a taxi. I remembered it, But I couldn't cross the road for a long while so I stopped a taxi which is near by. He sighed that he would stop a little far away from the place where I stood.

Now, I had to go back to Silver sands I, to take another copy of my resume for the school, where i'm supposed to give. I said " BUR DUB AI - NEAR TO HOTEL RAMADA - SILVER SANDS I". He said ok. After 5 minutes I asked him, If he could wait for a minute in silver sands and take me to Al Quoz to the Indian school. He nodded. I was thinking that its going to cost too much today, the traffic is also heavy. The driver then spoke to me " ARE U AN INDIAN" I said yes and he then asked "DO U KNOW HINDI" I replied No. He then continued, which part of India you are from "MUMBAI"? I replied "No, from Tamilnadu and i don't know hindi". I then asked him "WHERE ARE U FROM?" He said "PAKISTHAN". I was terrified because i was of the opinion Pakisthanies don't like Indians. I said to my heart God where have You out me in. I replied "Great". He continued "WHAT DO YOU SPEAK THEN" I replied "Tamil".

He missed the way to Silver sands, so he asked, should I take left. I replied " I don't know".With suprise he asked " YOU DON'T KNOW THE PLACE WHERE YOU LIVE" I asked to take left as i thought so. He continued where i should drop in Al Quoz. I said " in Indian school".

Driver: are U going to pick your children
Anisha: I am applying a job there
Driver: How come you are in Dubai?
Anisha : My husband works here in ENOC
Driver: ENOC is a good company
By the time we reached silver sands, I saw the meter, It was 15.50 Dhs.
Anisha : Please stop here for a minute and I'll be back
Driver: Alright Maam

I went running to the room, to take another resume. When I came back the meter stood in the same price - 15.50 Dhs. I thought I'm great I came so fast. we started again for Indian school.

Anisha : Do you Know Hindi?
Driver: Yes to some extent
Anisha: What do you speak in your home land?
Driver: Afgan Language (that information was new to me)
Anisha: Your family lives in Pakisthan?
Driver: Yes, since three months I'm here

I noticed him stopping the meter at every signal. (I felt great... i said sorry to my heart about my opinion for Pakisthanies). But when it took time for more than 40 minutes travelling to reach Al Quoz, I was scared. We also crossed a toll gate of Dubai (which increased my fear - I said to my heart "I would have left him in Silver sands") But After sometime I saw a board written as Al Quoz (I said to my heart - you idiot how can you think this way). He dropped me in the school. I paid him just 31 Dhs after travelling for more 80 minutes. I said thanks and entered the school.

I met the secretary and gave the resume. Then I went to the Receptionist and requested her to call Ms.Vanitha from the primary department that i wish to meet her.

She asked me which Vanitha i need to meet. I smiled and asked her if there are two vanitha's? I I said " i just have her number to find her". The receptionist replied me that there is only one Vanitha and she is not a teacher but a helper for children in the primary department.
My face turned yellow and pale. I had no words to reply, so i smiled. The Receptionist's look was different and she seemed to ignore my presence. Ms.Vanitha came and the receptionist said
" Vanitha here is a guest waiting for you"

I turned to her simply said "THANKS I GAVE MY RESUME" and started walking towards the exit door. After I took few steps, i heared Vanitha calling me "maam". I turned and I felt her face had an inferior expression on my attitude towards her position. She started " maam i'm working here as an aaiya for the primary department. I spoke with our principal about you. I wish you should get here a job. I then gave her a deep smile and said "Thank You". She offered me to have a cup of coffee. I said I had to go. I said bye and came back.

I took a taxi and this time I was very quite and i don't want to have a conversation with anyone. So i called my husband, told what had happened. He started laughing for more than 2 minutes. But he told something which i remember forever....

"PEOPLE LIKE VANITHA HAVE A GOOD HEART SO THEY MAY HAVE MORE POWER OF REFERENCE THAN A TEACHER" After that i realized her statement "I work for the primary department in Indian School" - (she never mentioned that she is a teacher, but i was the one who took it that way as she was very well dressed). I said to my heart that i should appreaciate her helping tendency.

I called her and asked her to stay in touch, even if i'm not offered with a job there. But she then replied "maam here the vacancies are more, i believe you are a capable candidate. Please do not lose your confidence" I replied "thanks - as i didn't have any other words to speak"

I met Ms. Vanitha a couple of days back in Spinneys, a departmental store near silver sands I.

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Promises - Beware of its importance

Human tendency is to do mistakes. This is the phrase that justifies everbody's mistakes. Not everybody murder, steal,takes other's spouse, lie, makes false promises with an intension that deceives someone. But there is something which we all should be aware of..................................


Promises made without knowing the implications might make someone else to do anyone of the above stated. Even if such promises does not result so much it surely makes the person who made it, feel guilty throughout the life. And for the person who is been deceived by a false promise, will feel rejected, the confidence would be shattered causing self pity.

This might look as a common fact, which everybody knows. Many may try keeping the promise, few may stick to it and many will slip over. Being a person who sliped a promise and also being a person deceived, surely will lose self confidence.

Being in a dilema happens for many and it may look like for a week person....
i will try...
may be i can....
i think i may give a try once...
i'm not so sure....
i may not be so comfortable, yet i can manage.....
i'm not sure, but i wish to....
All these statements, will confuse everyone. And promises undertaken on these statements has more tendency to fail...

There will be hundreds of justifications why a promise is not fulfilled, and why a promise made without a surety. Many a time, a person might have no other choice other than making a promise, else they may have to lose something or there might be a constant pestering. People who is generally tender in nature will undertake such promises. Because, the fear of losing someone or something will make them agree with the promise. But problems will twitch immediately after that.

Some people are different, they would accept to undertake a promise and immediately after a little while they would bounce back and procliam that it would not be feasible. This might not be of more damage to both the parties.

But there are people, learning tough lessons, just because they made a promise without understanding its implications. Though the implications are long and stops somewhere, its reflections stays forever. Down the line, they will be paying the price for their guilty throughout their life.

Hence, all this could be avoided for a promise with is in doubt if

The person can make himself strong enough and promulgate that the promise cannot be undertaken as he is not sure of its fulfilment. The statement of a "NO FOR SURE" will put an end. This might seem to be bad, but its reflections will yeild lot of benefits for the future.

The person is so tender, they can get the advice and care of someone, who can perform the work of a guardian.

The person can fully avoid the situation, and makes himself comfortable with essentialities.

The stage of dilema can be well managed using these statements.

I have never done this before, i should get the help of others....
I need time....
No i cannot,give me some other alternative....
I can discuss and let you know later....
I can never do this.....

People who confides with their promises can look themself with great confidence and can get the confidence of many.