Taming Emotions and People

I dedicate this blog to Sister Doris, Professor, Literature Department, Holy cross College, Nagercoil. Sr.Doris, is the one who seeded for this thought, in a class, few years ago. As learners of Literature, when she said " Do you know all your dreams can come true?" It looked like a myth and a mystery, yet was so happy to hear. we were all 19 years old, real dreamers in life and career, Her words was more than a Milkshake for the day. we all wish wish for something big and small, realistic and hypothetical.I believe Sr. Doris's thought of dream coming true, is for persistent people, whose focus remains the same all the time. I remember, she said, when you aim something and you believe you get it, with more positive thoughts, when years pass on with a single focus, you will certainly reach, what you had dreamt for. well, I was Sr. Doris's favourite student, that she might have thought, I was focused and persistent. But I wasn't There are a set of people, kind of Niche; we generally are like a camera, we focus on something, taken away by something else, miss the actual focus. Again we focus on something else and try to focus on it. There is no perseverance on the focus. But atleast there is a short term focus. The entire discussion, is for people who are not stronger enough, yet planning to focus and try their luck of making their dreams come true. Coming to the crust"Dreams coming True" I believe taming your emotions and emotions of people, with whom your dream has an effect with, would help you focus more and reach the destination. Taming your emotions, I mean, adapt yourself with the changing situations yet having focus on what you want. Many times, I have realized that i tame myself so badly,that I feel,i will be flexible like a rubberband, with so much pain, i adapt myself to focus. But, whenever, i do so, i end up with depression. focus will fall nowhere here. It is meaningless to tame yourself like a rubberband, while the people connected with your focus, remains unaware of it. Taming people, the coined words looks notorious. isn't it? Taming people alone, without any effort from your side, is like preaching without practising. Like a Hitler, it is trying to have control on others. Controlling other's emotions is a mere silly act. But somehow, you have to win their confidence and support to attain your focus. Intelligence like finding common interests and benefits out of the goal dreamt and Patience, to wait for apt situations would help reach your dream and make it happen. To be more precise, when you look at your mirror with a mindset, that you are ugly and tired, you are. While you look at the mirror with a mindset, that you are beautiful in a unique way, you ae beautiful too. Relationships, is also like a mirror, when you approach them with positive attempts with patience. At the right time, you will reach your dreams. With people it is always, you reap what you sow.