I have always been thankful for the way i am brought up, to God Almighty. Though i had different sets of challenges at various stages, i am in the right path, which gives me a sense of satisfaction now whenever i think about it. I was successful at school and college, though it was not to the level to be advertised, I have considered all those success as a reward from God, for my hard-work. But at the same time, there were certain things, which i wasn't happy about myself and i had always had somebody to blame (especially my parents) for my so called failures. I never knew, how i picked up this attitude, but many times, i have told on their faces that i had or having a bad time because of them. Even now, when ever i see people with good behaviors/ attitudes, i tend to appreciate them at heart for their attitude and had never tried or tend to appreciate their parents for the way they have brought up their child.
As always said, Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, my Husband, has an entirely different opinion for the success or failures of young men and women. Whenever, i tried to appreciate him for a behavior, he always mentions his parents and the way they brought him up. Also, whenever, i find a mistake or something wrong with him, he mentions it very clearly, that he had developed a wrong attitude/ behavior and he is solely responsible for it.
I was just the same, so long ... that even when i see a unmannered behavior of my student, i tend to blame their parents and for good mannerisms i appreciate their attitude.
I was blind, and had no different opinion on this even after my marriage, till the time, i found my younger brother had developed a very similar attitude of mine, but he was many steps ahead of me. I don't know, may be he would have picked up this from me. (there could be no other source - so in a way i am responsible) I realized that i am wrong and tried to take steps to correct myself and my brother.
I too will be a mother soon, i realize the pain of being blamed for certain things that happens in the child's life. after all, everybody likes to be appreciated and not blamed, and when it comes to a family - there could be no other bonding so strong and healthy. why not we give them good things in all the ways we can???
