My First Story in the blog!!!

Its often surprising me, marriage just a 8 letter word, has so much inside. It is Sweet and Sour, adding flavors to individual lives and the society. I really don't know, what makes me to share views,about marriage related topics than any other.

Couldn't wait anymore, thoughts just flowing down... Let me type it here...

It was around 6.30 in the evening, when Hannah started walking to and fro in her garden, She looked very disturbed, as if she is fighting with herself.

Neil, her Husband; Even though there is not much to describe him, He loves Hannah a lot. Not only Hannah, But everyone who knows them, knows, whatever Neil does, it always represents his love for Hannah. He is definitely not an extra ordinary lover,( as always expected by Ladies) But an ordinary faithful Husband.

For 7 years, they are married. They live without children.Life was peaceful irrespective of the usual challenges that occurs in everybody's married life. Trust, was the only factor, tied, both of them towards each other.

Hannah, could never forget, the past Tuesday that she marked it in her personal Diary. Hannah, was never been so angry before Tuesday. Hannah, used to hold her patience almost all the time, when things doesn't favor her. For Neil, it was a hard surprise to see Hannah, being on her nerves, which he had never seen in his seven years of marriage. Without knowing the cause, Neil spent 6 hard hours with Hannah.

Finally, Neil wants to put an end to the situation, he said " Unless you tell me the reason for your anger, You are probably making the situation worse, inviting me to argue, and lose temper just as you are" This made her break down.... that she threw the letter on his face and walked straight to the dinning hall and she lied and started to sob.

Neil, after 30 minutes, came with a milk shake to Hannah. he said " Please do not break down Hannah, Listen to me and you react. This was the missing love letter , which i could not show you, as i had lost it. This is nothing new to you, you know my past."

Hannah interrupted " Can I speak now? I saw the covering letter and address. The stamp holds the date of the previous week"

Neil : Good, My wife, did you look into the letter's date? Or did U check the other letters from the same lady?

Hannah looked puzzled and went running to see the date of the letter and other letters. The date was mentioned as " 3- 12- 1997". The other letters from the same lady contained documents, like his bike Insurance Policy, purchase receipts of some furniture etc.along with a Note

" Mr. Neil, These documents belongs to you. We found it from your cupboard, whose key you lost, when you were working with us. We thought it should be useful to you and we are sending it to your residence"

To Hannah's Surprise, the lady was the Receptionist of his previous company.

Hannah was mortified, she apologized to Neil, Humbling herself to the core.She remembered all the favors, she had received from Neil and his enduring love.

It was hard for Hannah, to accept herself with her behavior, and she was so upset with it. She asked herself a thousand times, that she was so very patient for so many things and what made her, lose it all of a sudden.

At 8.00, She decided, to leave her disturbance for a while and went to prepare the food, which Neil loves. In the Night, Neil asked Hannah, " Are u ok?" Hannah replied "I believe so" Neil comforted her saying, it's ok dear. I even, might have reacted like you, if I were in your place. After all, i could never count the times, you stayed patient, when i was rude to you. So lets' forget it.

Hannah, kept so quiet smiling,inside she was comforted; that she tore the paper from her diary.

Marriages are Made in Heaven. No man, has the right to break it. Lets try to make our lives feel like heaven, in between "hell -ful" times.

Our TNEB and its challenges...

I was born here, brought up, received an identity, and so much. May be this blog is too small to write my relationship with India.

Very few months, I lived in a Foreign country. Quite sometime, there was so many things to complain about the other country, as i missed all those which i used to have it, in my past.

Best of things is the freedom... I cannot explain it here,this blog is not relevant to elaborate it. But, after spending few months there, when i came back here; The very first day, we suffered without power. Like an average Indian, My mind scolded our TNEB and The Government.

I will also deviate from the subject, still i would say that we Indians expect too much, from The Government as such. Without realizing the fact, resources which are shrinking for the common man, is also shrinking for the Government.

Even after having so many faults,of ruling and opposition parties, our Country is growing. So many visionaries, trying too hard, to make our people convince and making the country grow. This has to be appreciated.

Last week, while i was browsing the newspapers, i read an article from the TNEB. Albeit having so many options to extract electricity, due to our natural resources, our TNEB is in a pitiable condition.

It says,the percentage of electricity wasted in Tamil nadu is more than the countries of abundance. Not that we really waste. But we loot, electricity by unfair means. It also says the cost incurred for replacing transformers, is becoming high, as the number of transformers in repair is high. Being agriculture, the backbone of Indian economy, The Government gave free electricity, to extract water. The number of defaulters in agriculture is more; than any other sector, by setting up motors of high voltage. It was like a story of giving some breathing space for the camel into the tent.

After trying so many options, to prevent wastage; Now TNEB has announced an increase in the slab prices consumed, for various sectors, depending upon the sector and usage.

Well, I understood, TNEB cannot be blamed. Population,usage and the culture of having everything in abundance is the reason for the power-cut. Many companies, organizations started creating awareness among people regarding the usage of electricity.

But creating such awareness, looks like a program, rather than creating it in the minds. Probably, this could be because of the fact, that we people lack in empathy.

We all know, everybody is running for development of personal lives. It is obvious that, if one runs for personal development, the society is also benefited to some extent.But, while we run for it, if we see somebody slip, it is nothing wrong for us to lift them up and run again. May be, we are so concentrated, that we miss out to lift the slipped ones...

It would be great, if we could see others develop as well, as we develop...
India, might turn as " God's own country" as a whole, if we learn empathy as we grow....

Consequences of lifestyle changes

Lifestyle changes is a business idea to many organizations that promotes health. But, this is the outcome of improvements that had taken place in the developing countries, which is certainly an outpity.

People today need Professional/BPO/Marketing/Media Jobs because with, these jobs alone, one can have a decent livelihood. Otherwise, one would be the most obvious lower middle class commoner, if not an Entrepreneur. Even, without a clue, everybody could make out that, the lifestyles of these people has changed to a very large extent.

Some groups of people often are too jealous of the people, who grow with their career. I have personally heard people screaming that let them suffer, they have big salaries; now let them face the issues.

These people,who work as professionals now, have been trying too hard to satisfy everyone right from their childhood!!!!

As a child, parents expects them to be smart, even in looks and in studies. Parents create the child's hobby, they try if they could make them famous through their hobbies. Tenth standard, the children are squeezed both at home and at school, for a mark ceiling to fit them in their relevant groups. Then again in 12th standard, they squeeze them furthermore, to fit them into a professional college.

It has become a status symbol, for the society ; that their children learning in professional colleges. If the children couldn't make it out, they were made to be stressed, letting to put themselves down.

Fearing all this, the child, strives really hard to meet the expectations.

They work too hard, suppressing so many factors, to get a good job. I am very sure, nobody accepts a child, when they fail to meet expectations. I wonder, are children, a doll for the society and the parents???

It is not done yet.........................

As a earning individual, they work like bullocks day and night for the expectation of the company. Family expects money from them, Government expects tax from them, Relatives expects gifts from them (since they are professionalists)

To whom are they living, Does it not enough for the younger generation to earn for 3 meals a day??? Who told them a massive salary is better?

Is it not the society???

Their minds are full of Frustrations leading to all varieties of habits. No time. With the time available, they enjoy with whatever they get. What is there to be envied???

It is actually the expectations of everyone, had made them seek doctors in their early twenties.

Another set of people try to retrieve their health, in exchange for their blood sweat-ed money.

When asked the society, why so many health complaints? - they say these are the consequences of lifestyle changes - result of massive salary!!!!

Who is to be blamed????

His Soul Mate

One evening, when I was in Dubai, I felt little home sick and decided to go for a walk. While passing thorough the Mankhool road, I saw an Old Indian couple in a coffee shop, where usually the young lovers go. They should be of their late 65's or early 70's. I could make out, they were on a vacation here. The way they behaved showed their strong and long love for each other.

From my early 20's, I admire the old couples, spending time for each other. I feel great about their sacrificing love for each other. Many a time, I felt, God still lives in many families through these couples.

I remember my train journey for my Cat exams. I couldn't forget the discussion which i had with an Old man in the train. May be, it took so long to put it into my blog, but it was there in my mind for many years and that when I saw another old couple, it came back so strongly allowing me to write it here.

I was going to Trichi - St. Joseph College, as i had my exams there. It was a Day train, time would hardly pass on. He was on his way to his daughter house in Trichi. For 1 hour, we remained silent. I offered him some biscuits and thus it started. He enquired my trip and i did the same. Slowly he started telling his story.

" I was married in 1971. It was an arranged marriage. I hadn't seen her before the event. There wasn't an occasion called engagement in our times. She was 21 and i was 33. I didn't want it that time as I joined the Tea factory in Assam a year before.

Now - a- days, people like to be married to beautiful girls, She was also beautiful, not of a fair complexion. But shined like a moon. She had sharp features, little curly hair and was very short.

I had nothing there in Assam, not even a rented house. I never bothered to describe my situation and get her consent. I took her there. There were so many things to complain about. But she managed everything in our very little room that she made it a Heaven.

We had 4 children, 2 girls and 2 boys. We got our daughters married and our elder son too. One youngest one is working in Infosys, Bangalore. We didn't know how years passed on.

After so many years of marriage, we started having a life with little comforts. No sooner after we had a house in Chennai, my wife fell sick and admitted in the hospital. I realized we were growing old.

Until then, I was thinking that it was her responsibility to look after the house, take care of the kids, leading them to discipline and all the house hold cores. I had never interrupted or asked her if she needed help. I have just did, whatever he had asked me to do.

Only when i saw her in the bed, I recognized, what our marriage had done to her. She had lost her Shape, health and Beauty, being my wife, being a monther of our kids, being a grand mother for our grand children.

She had done so many things, which we all had taken it for granted for so many years. May be I should have given her something more , which would have made her little more comfortable.

She couldn't make it for more than a week in the hospital.God took her in peace. I had loved her all my life and i am still in love with her.

She was with us, in all our difficulties, But she did not wait to enjoy the fruit of our difficulties.

Now for 2 years, I am just wandering here and there, waiting to join her." He finished.

I remained silent. By then our stations came and I started to the ladies Hostel. In the night, my mind started imagining about them. And i said to myself.... The Old man's wife would even think of him from Heaven for his innumerable number of sacrifices, he had done for her and their family.